My two beautiful daughters graduated this past week, one from high school, one from elementary school. There were no dances, no proms, no gatherings of proud parents watching graduates parade across a stage in gown and cap. There was a 15-minute interval where they picked up their diplomas and awards and had their picture taken with one or two family members, and then that was it.
My heart goes out to all of these kids, and I couldn’t help thinking, if I was some big celebrity who was asked to deliver a commencement address to the graduating class of 2020, what would I say?
Here would be my Oprah speech:
The Next Act
It wasn’t supposed to end this way.
I know this isn’t the graduation you dreamed of.
You should have been dancing. Hugging. Celebrating with your classmates. Dreaming and looking ahead with excitement and anticipation to the next act in your life.
But you are not the first class to graduate in uncertain times. There have been those before you who have graduated in times of war and economic downturn.
Graduation is by design, a time of uncertainty and change. But we acknowledge this year is different.
in addition to the natural uncertainty of the questions every graduate faces, college or university, work or travel, you have the pressing uncertainties of a world in flux and change.
#BlackLivesMatter. Climate change. Coronavirus.
You will forever be known as the graduating class of COVID-19.
We are so sorry this happened to you.
It shouldn’t have ended this way, but know how proud we are of you and how confident we are that you will come through this stronger, smarter and more resilient.
Although you may not see this now, you have been given a unique graduation gift.
A gift of time to reflect on your goals, dreams, purpose and future.
A gift of clarity of what matters most, human kindness and acceptance, our natural world, and the importance of family and human connection.
These past few months have given you an education no institution ever could.
So what will be your next act?
Whatever it may be, know there is a difference between “purpose” and “a purpose”.
Purpose is sometimes portrayed as one all-consuming passion. You may not all be Greta Thunbergs, but you can find a purpose in everything you do.
Being a good friend. A good student. A good worker. A good mother or father. Someone who cares and gets involved in their community.
Purpose is not a single act.
Finally, be kind to one another. Seek what brings us together as humans, and eschew those that divide and remember you belong to each other. Do better than our generation has done.
Above all, whatever your next act in life, make it a purposeful and happy one.
And if I really was Oprah, “you win a mask, and you win a mask and you win a mask…”