The only All Year’s Resolution you’ll ever need to make

2014 imageI’m not a big fan of New Year’s resolutions. They may spur us into action, but usually after a few weeks or months they fade into oblivion and we are back into our old habits and woefully aware of our failure to keep our promises for yet another year.

So instead of making a New Year’s Resolution, why not make an All Year’s Resolution? A resolution to tell the people you love that you love them every day.

You see, my Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer when I was 12 and died when I was 19.  To say it changed my adolescence is a bit of an understatement. I never went through that phase of not wanting to be with my parents and I’m dreading the day when my two girls become teenagers and they don’t want to spend time with me.

Even though my Mom had cancer, I lived a normal teenage existence, but I also spent a lot of time with my Mom, playing board games, driving her to appointments and helping to take care of her. One of the things we talked about and committed to very early on in her disease was to tell each other we loved each other every day because we were painfully aware that some day, she would be gone.

I’ve tried to practice this philosophy throughout my life. And while it was difficult when both my parents died, I can honestly say there was nothing left unsaid. I still miss them dearly still to this day, and am sad to think my children never got to meet or know these wonderful people, but I have no regrets about our time together or how we felt about each other.

Life is short. The people you love might not be there tomorrow, so don’t leave anything left unsaid. This week’s Happy Act is to make an All Year’s Resolution to tell the people in your life you love them every day. Are you making any other New Year’s Resolutions? Share them. Me? Probably the same ones I make every year: eat a bit healthier and exercise more (but this time I have a game plan—wish me luck!)

7 thoughts on “The only All Year’s Resolution you’ll ever need to make

  1. Beautifully said, Laurie. This is my first Christmas without both my parents and I feel a bit like an orphan. Life is short, telling people how you feel today is my only resolution for the New Year.

    1. I was thinking of you and other friends who are spending this Christmas for the first time without a loved one. I know what you mean about feeling like an orphan–that feeling never really goes away, just dulls over time. Our parents are so integral in our lives, when they’re gone, it’s like having the trunks of your family tree cut away leaving branches and limbs left hanging. All the more reason to tell the people we love how much they mean to us.

  2. best advice ever! Another friend of mine has posted that rather than a resolution, she has chosen a “word” to live by for the year. Her word: Choice. Love it, now I am trying to pick a word for myself that I can aspire to live by too.

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  4. Laurie, you are my she-ro for this great blog. My word for 2014 to aspire to and live by will be “random”. This word will be followed by “actions” rather than act.

  5. In 2014, I think my word will be: Think; you inspired me to become a better person, and I thought about it. I just wanted to say thank you for that

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