Live in perfect harmony

Mahatma Gandhi

Mahatma Gandhi once said, “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”

Ghandi was a lawyer, pacifist and religious leader who became a symbol of Indian nationalism in the 1920’s and years leading up to the second world war.

There is much truth to this statement but it is easier said than done and fraught with frailty.

In theory, if you act in accordance to your thoughts and speak your truth, you will never feel conflicted and be content.

The reality is, we often don’t espouse or act in line with our beliefs due to fear of ostracism, reprisal or simply because it’s easier to remain silent.

For some, the issue is not alignment. It is simple they don’t know what to believe in anymore.

And for others still, there is a more dangerous scenario. Their beliefs, words and actions are aligned, but they are rooted in a negative or destructive mindset.

Gandhi believed in “satyagraha”, the social doctrine of nonviolence which advocates for the complete renunciation of war and violence as means of achieving goals. The doctrine applies to both nation states and individuals and stems from the ethical conviction that participating in any act of violence is morally wrong. Its literal translation is “holding onto truth”.

His entire life, Ghandi stood up against colonialism, racism, discrimination and violence. He inspired millions with his beliefs, his words and his actions.

Maybe it’s time we all Gandhi’d up. For the sake of our own personal happiness and for the sake of happiness in the world.

Finding happiness in the me age

girls taking selfies at a garden

They say the road to hell is paved with the best intentions. For almost a decade now, I’ve been blogging about happiness. I started this blog as an outlet for my writing and because I was fascinated by the juxtaposition of people living in a world with so much wealth, but struggling more than ever to be happy.

I’ve learned much about what makes me happy, the science of happiness and the intrinsic benefits of having purpose, showing gratitude and helping others.

I now fear instead of helping people live a happier life, I’ve contributed to the navel-gazing narcissistic culture our society has become.

Forget the #MeToo movement. We’re living in the age of #JustMe.

I know what you’re thinking. Every generation has claimed that the next generation is more selfish and self-absorbed than they were. Perhaps, but the advent of computers, cell phones, celebrity culture and the seismic shift in how we work and play in the past fifty years has propelled us into a whole new level of egocentricity.

Honestly, if I see another selfie of a 20-something posing sideways in front of a bathroom mirror holding up their cell phone with pouty lips, accentuated hips, and frosted tips, I think I’m going to lose it.

And don’t even get me started on the hyper-focus on resilience. Try telling a farmer living a hundred years ago in rural Canada with six mouths to feed and no running water you’re taking a break to “practice self-care” or going on a “forest therapy walk”, they’d mock you until their cows came home.

A sad and disturbing product of this #JustMe movement is we all have become more polarized in our views and unaccepting of other people’s opinions. What’s more, we don’t hesitate to share our views in the most public of forums. “We” are always right and everyone else is wrong.

It’s time we went from taking selfies to choosing selflessness, from practicing self-care to caring for others.

It was Ghandi who said, “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”

This week’s #HappyAct is to change the #JustMe narrative and find happiness by looking outward instead of in.

Living a life of service

Queen Elizabeth II

The tributes for Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II continue to pour in. Despite differing opinions on the institution of the monarchy and legacy of colonialism, the world seems united in celebrating a remarkable woman who dedicated her life to public service and who for 70 years was a stable, reassuring presence in turbulent times.

I’ve been thinking quite a bit lately of what it means to live a life of service. Ghandi once said, “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”

Most of us live a life of service in small ways, as parents, good neighbours and community members, and in some cases, in our career choices. Health care providers, first responders and elected officials all dedicate their lives to helping or serving others. But for many of us, the concept of living a life of service is not how we would describe our day-to-day life or even our purpose in life.

Living a life of service is different than having purpose. You can have purpose, a passion or focus that makes you happy and feel alive but doesn’t involve serving others.

The world and the people in it seem a bit lost these days. Perhaps the best way to find ourselves again is to be more intentional in leading a life of service.

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