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Stop rehashing conversations in your head

Illustration of two men, one with angry thoughts in his head and one with happy thoughts in his head

Recently, I had a phone conversation with someone where it got very emotional.

They were voicing their perspective and applying a specific filter to a situation, and I was doing the same from my perspective. No one was right or wrong and it was difficult for the two of us to overcome our emotions and move forward.

I was upset for a few days, constantly rehashing the conversation in my head. That’s the funny thing about emotions. They’re emotional.

I tried all my usual techniques to let it go. Went for a long swim in the lake. Ate a huge bowl of Kawartha Dairy ice cream. Talked to my best friend. Told myself in the greater scheme of things, it was inconsequential. It seemed no matter what I did, I kept rehashing the conversation in my head.

I even looked back at some of my old blog posts like Let it go and Take the high road. Some experts say “distanced self-talk”, actually talking out loud and saying “this is not the end of the world”, the power of touch, and doing something awe-inspiring are all effective strategies for moving forward. My default is to write about it, which is also another proven technique.

I think what helped me the most funnily enough was the process of rehashing. It did help me get to the root of my feelings. After I had peeled back all the layers of my emotional onion, I felt unburdened. I could see things more clearly from both perspectives and was finally able to move on.

Rehashing conversations in my head is one of my worst traits. I’m ashamed to admit there are conversations that literally happened decades ago that I still rehash to this day.

It’s hard to get over hard feelings. I guess that’s why they call them hard. In the end, I just kept replaying Ted Lasso’s words in my head. “I forgive you” and “Be like a goldfish” (have a short memory and move on).

What do you do when you can’t stop rehashing conversations in your head? Leave a comment.

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What would Ted Lasso say?

We’ve been binge watching the first few seasons of Ted Lasso now that Season 4 is releasing episodes each week on Apple TV. I watched the full first season on the plane to Turkey this March and I became hooked, like a hungry crawfish on a jig line, as Ted might say in his Kansas drawl.

This show is so lovable, not just because of its superb cast, endearing characters and clever writing. No, the reason why you love Ted Lasso so much is because it is so damn refreshing and inspirational. In a streaming world of dark dramas and thrillers, Ted Lasso is like an oxygen mask at 30,000 feet when the cabin on an airplane loses pressure. Here are some quotes and sentiments from the show to inspire us to lead a happier life. 

  • “Just listen to your gut, OK? And on the way down to your gut, check in with your heart. Between those two things, they’ll let you know what’s what.”
  • Be curious, not judgmental
  • “I think that you might be so sure a person is one thing, that sometimes you completely miss who they really are.”
  • “Success is not about the wins and losses. It’s about helping these young fellas be the best versions of themselves, on and off the field.”
  • Believe in hope. Believe in belief.
  • Be like a goldfish (because goldfish have a short memory).
  • I forgive you.
  • “There is something worse out there than being sad, and that’s being alone and being sad.”
  • “There’s two buttons I never like hittin’, and that’s panic and snooze.”
  • “In the end what’s more important, being right or being kind?”

Y’all have a happy week.

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Need a little patience

If patience is a virtue, then we are at risk of transforming into a generation of sinners.

If you live with teenagers or twentysomethings, you’ll know what I mean. Put the lid back on the toothpaste tube? They ain’t got no time for that. Zip up a bag of Pretzel chips? That’s takes a nanosecond too long, time that could be spent watching endless reels or snap chatting their friends. So what if the $8 bag of chips go stale. The bank of Mom and Dad will pay for it.

And don’t get me started on tech. Since I’m pretty good with software every now and then, one of my kids will ask for my help with something on their computer. I take my time working the problem, navigating through menus, and usually figure it out, but after thirty seconds, they complain that I’m taking too long and rip the computer out of my hands. They’ve learned it’s better to leave the room and do something else while I figure it out.

I can’t blame them really. They are the “instant generation”. They’ve grown up being able to download music or movies on demand, order an item and have it show up on their doorstep the next day, and talk to someone 24-7 when they need help.

And as much as I like to blame my kids for everything, I have to admit it’s not just them. Everyone seems less patient these days. On the roads. Waiting in line at fast food outlets. Even in conversations.

This is a problem. When an entire society or culture becomes less patient, it tends to be less kind. Less empathetic. Less caring. In our rush to move on to the next best thing, we forget to see and appreciate what’s in front of us.

Impatience can also lead to errors in judgement. We don’t take the time to get all the facts, understand the implications of decisions and consider alternatives.

This week’s #HappyAct is to take a deep breath, and find a little patience.

And for you Ted Lasso fans out there, here’s Jason Sudeikis playing the water bottle and singing Guns N’ Roses’ Patience at Thundergong 2020. Season 4 of Ted Lasso is now streaming on AppleTV.