Read any online news site at this time of year, and inevitably you will find an article on why new year’s resolutions fail.
New year’s resolutions are destined to fail because after one transgression, the mind will say, “oh well, I tried” and we fall back into old habits.
A more powerful and interesting exercise is to try visioning instead. Instead of saying what one thing will I do different this month or year, picture where you want to be a decade from now.
Where do you want to be in 2030? For most of us, I suspect the answer doesn’t involve significant life changes, just small changes and pivots to help us focus on what’s important in our life and what we want to do to be happy.
Here’s my answer.
I will be living in my same house on my beautiful lake that I adore and that has become a source of peace, happiness and solitude. Dave and I will be empty-nesters, but we’ll be OK. We’ll rejoice in our individual pursuits and cherish the time we spend together hiking, travelling and enjoying our lake.
I will be thinner and healthier (yes!) from being more active, instead of sitting at a desk all day.
I will write for 2-3 hours every morning, with the goal of being published.
I will continue to remain active in my community, volunteering, attending concerts with my friends, playing sports and doing things in the daytime (OMG, what a thought!)
I will take courses, either through the Queen’s Lifelong Learning seminars or through our local Seniors Association.
I will watch in wonder as my daughters discover who they are as adults, support their passions, and be there when they stumble.
I will be there for family and friends and be grateful for what each day brings.
This is my vision.